Momentum: Life in the Toilet

When dating, I'd say it's important to figure out if you're into the other person quickly so as not to waste the other's time. Sounds obvious, but why do we bother with another when times between dates are so great?

I referenced J once before and how it took six weeks between our third and fourth date before we saw each other again; there is now another J dancing around my life (ref: Social Lubricant post) who now I think is getting ye ol' kick to el curb-o.

At the time of the first date with J2, the thought of even kissing the guy was a little unsettling (clue #1), but now our schedules have been pretty busy with social events, fundraisers (that he doesn't go to), cancelling due to work deadlines (that'd be him), Passover, friend good-bye parties (that's me), and again this weekend with more cancellations due to work (again, that'd be him).

It has been more than five weeks now since our first date. Yes, we've talked a bit on the phone here and there, but nothing that makes you want to take that phone call "to the next level."

(A good Jewish girl like me doesn't do that stuff anyway! I swear!)

I think its safe to say any momentum - and there wasn't much to begin with - is now in the toilet. In fact, I think it's made it's way through the sewage system, into the lakes, and is now sinking to the bottom to be sucked up by any plankton that may live in the abyss' deepest, darkest, lowest, surface.

I think this is a case where Greg and Liz might say "Honey, he's just not that into you!"
But then why bother calling? Why even make another date time?

A friend of mine suggested I say "look, why don't you give me a call sometime and if it works out great, and if it doesn't - it doesn't." I said it, but the guy didn't get the hint. He said he'll call me later this week to make a plan.

Oh J2, I'm really not into you...or your weird hair line.

I'm setting a rule. If you don't go out on a second date within two weeks -forget it. Move on.
If after the third date there are more than two and a half weeks between, send in the next douche bag.