Text Sex: The New Dirty Talk?!

There are two kinds of men: those who talk dirty, and those who don't.

Those who don't aren't necessarily lacking in sass, they just seem to respect women (and when I say women, I mean me) a little bit more than to go right for the "when are we getting naked?"

That or they try and seriously can't pull it off, and you almost wish they'd go back to their pocket protector days and stay there.

And then there are those that go right into the smut. Sometimes clever, sometimes a little covert slip of naughty, and sometimes obtusely grotesque...the latter is a huge turnoff.

I was talking to a guy friend of mine last night who is currently out of town. He met a girl randomly in a store the other day and they've been texting ever since. What started out with some very cute "nice to meet you" and "glad I bumped into you" sweetness, turned into "I knew I should have gone in for the kiss" (that's him: semi clean), "I like where your head is at," (that's her: mmm...borderline), and "maybe I'll extend my stay" (that's him: you're implying the nasty).

While still harmless, can I sound prudey for a moment and say, YOU'VE ONLY KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR FIVE MINUTES! LITERALLY!

All that for the ultimate hopes of a home run. And he's not a bad looking bloke. He doesn't need to resort to text sex.

Hmm...

Over the years I've been on the receiving end of a fair amount of dirty talk. But lately, a few fellows I've been talking to and half-ass dating, have dipped their toes in these said dirty waters with a few remarks, but I feel like if I cater to it or respond positively then I'm endorsing it.

I'm not opposed to the occasional smutty banter, but I assume Mr. Lobster would have a more sincere interest and express it on a mature level...at least initially.

Don't get me wrong, I, like any other girl, want to feel desirable and sexy. And when words are more accessible than actions, dirty talk is definitely a good way. But if actually talking isn't in the cards at the moment - if you're in the middle of a meeting or you sit in a fairly open-concept office, is texting the next best thing??

Granted it's definitely better than Facebook sex.
And if something like that does make you crack a smile and long for the next time you can see each other, then I'm all for it.

I just think if you haven't even had a date yet, it may be too early. Even after one date, I'd say hold off.

But like I said, I'm part prude...

I'd wait until the third date.