Forgetting What It's Like On the Other Side of the Fence

How many times have we cursed at the phone, or rather the person who is supposed to be on the other end of the phone, because he did not call?

How many times have we cried and cried because our hearts have been broken (dare I say, we've been dumped?)

But yet, we forget what it's like to be on the other side of that fence.

We forget that it hurts too, to be the dumper. It's not fun hurting someone else's feelings.

But this post isn't going to get so deep. This is about being on the side of the tracks that doesn't call but before it gets emotionally challenging. This is the courting stage.

As you know I'm a half-ass Jdater. I don't have a picture up, I don't pay, I go on it maybe once a week if that.

While on there a few weeks ago a guy - wouldn't you know his name was Michael - contacted me. As he turned out to be related to a friend of mine, I decided to give him the benefit of (one of) my real email address(es). This led to adding of the msn addresses and a day-long witty back and forth.

Then things went a bit too far - we added each other's BlackBerry PIN numbers. That's a big step! That's like three steps short of exchanging keys!

On top of that, he added me to Facebook!

I went with it because I knew I could easily delete the dude, but at the time I was thinking, "WOAH! SLOW IT DOWN A LITTLE BUDDY!"

So blah blah blah lots of talking, lots of laughing...seems like an okay guy

And then I was going away for a long weekend - Friday to Monday. He wished me a good trip, said we'd talk when I came home; but when I came back...nothing.

So I blocked him from my msn. I mean seriously, why make it THAT easy for him to get in touch with me. He's had my phone number for over a week now - he should step it up...grow some balls.

Nothing.

And then, on a Friday afternoon I see on my msn "Email Inbox (1 new message)"

The email reads
Subject: "hey"
Body: "So...wanna go for a drink sometime?"

I'm annoyed.

A few days later (and after much deliberation and third party input) I email back and say that I haven't been online much lately, wasn't checking that address and suggested calling.

He still emailed back.

He called the next night and I was unavailable to pick up the phone at the moment...thank G-D.
At this point there's been too much pre-date stuff that I've lost interest.

Call me rigid.
Call me impatient.
Call me whatever you like, but if you're going to ask me out have the balls to JUST DO IT! Bless those Nike marketers.

And now I've just deleted him from everything: MSN, BlackBerry, Facebook and my cell.

To my point though. I don't think (at least I hope) no one feels like this when they're on this side of the fence with me. I hope no one thinks that I'm such a complete doofus that they hate seeing my name on call display or they dread the idea of me calling/emailing them.

I'm sure I've been blocked - I don't kid myself into thinking I'm loved by all; but I certainly hope the other side of the fence - when it comes to me - is a lot more pleasant...perhaps a little greener...with excitement.